Dating after becoming widow

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What I have actually found at the heart of questions such as these is a deeply held fallacy, a myth that has existed for far too long. Remember—the love that you have for your late husband will never ever go away. However, you are also not destined to remain in everlasting mourning, that is not why you are here.

Too many of you feel that by dating again or falling in love again or becoming intimate again, even though you are not really cheating per se, you feel as though you are either cheating on the life that you had with your husband or that you are diminishing or disrespecting his memory. You have already learned that: You Can Honor Your Past. If you choose it, living a life of abundance includes companionship, love, and yes, physical intimacy, which is an important and beautiful expression of that love.

We miss intimacy, except for when we don't miss it.

We want intimacy because we miss the closeness and the sharing and let's face it, the just plain "it-feels-so-good" of it all, except when we don't want it because it's hard to imagine ourselves being intimate with anyone other than our husbands.

Now the kids are grown up and I am alone as I feared I would be. For more on the your mental health do a Google search or go to and ask for research on mental health.

Do other widows feel their husbands presence after their death?

In her own time of pain, Fleet felt her resources were few, limited mostly to grief books that, she feared, would keep her stuck in a state of sorrow, unable to move on.

To my way of thinking, I would have to know someone pretty well before I made the very important decision to become intimate.

Without getting preachy or otherwise standing on moral ceremony, and understanding that the decision to become intimate is possibly the most hugely personal decision that one can make, the easiest and most obvious reply here is that if he is a "stranger," you are not going to be physically intimate with him, are you?

To address her own need and that of millions of other widows like her, Fleet launched Widows Wear Stilettos, a nonprofit organization and website, in 2006. Foster a place where widows could find the help and support they needed.

In the new book , she shares thousands of questions and answers from her site, addressing everything from dealing with grief, to handling the holidays, to finances, to dating.

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